On the other hand, if you are not sure whether a particular person or couple will be invited to the wedding, don’t send them a save-the-date card. And there is really no reason, and it’s a waste of your precious money, to buy and send these notices when all of your guests live relatively nearby or the wedding will not occur during a busy time of the year.
What you should do – Since this will be your first written contact with most of your guests, it’s important that they make a good first impression. Make sure that you spell each guest’s name correctly. If you are unsure about the spelling of someone’s name, look it up or contact someone reliable.
Timing Is Everything – Wedding invitations are generally mailed out six to eight weeks prior to the event, but save the date cards should be sent out four to six months ahead of time. This way, guests will be able to shop around for transportation, schedule a convenient flight, reserve a hotel room, and make other necessary arrangements. Major events are exciting social gatherings that everyone will want to attend, both family and friends from near and far. Sending them out well enough in advance makes it far more likely that all of your guests will be able to attend.
The wording of save the date cards never strays far from a central outline. The names of the couple, date, city, and addendum, ’invitation to follow’ or ’formal invitation to follow’ are the only required elements. The save the date card looks like a succinct verse on a small minimalist-style card.
Save the date cards can take the form of any message medium, and often do. They sometimes correspond in style to the wedding invitations, or they take the form of refrigerator magnets, brochures, postcards, booklets, or tri-fold letters. The medium is up to you, but the shortness of the message usually lends itself well to magnets or small cards.