What Not To Include – Save the date cards should not be used to provide detailed information about the event itself. This is not the time or place to discuss the rehearsal dinner, the reception, or the ceremony. It is inappropriate to include registry information as well. Guests who are interested in registry information can contact you themselves, or they can wait until the actual wedding invitations are sent out. Response requests are also not included. These notices are merely a courtesy ’heads up’ to your long distance guests and others who may require, for personal, professional, or medical reasons, some advance notice.
Brides tend to favor the idea of sending out save-the-date cookies, but make sure that you include an additional slip of paper so the information does not get eaten up with the cookies.
Rules & Etiquette – Again, few rules apply. The only information you must include is your names and wedding date, although I suggest including location information as well so wedding guests can begin their travel plans. Aim to send save-the-date cards soon after you secure your date and venue, or about 4-6 months prior to your wedding. Remember, everyone who receives a save-the-date also receives an invitation, so have your guest list finalized prior to sending them. You can, however, always add guests later (there is no rule that says everyone must receive a save-the-date card). Although formal replies are not required, you can get preliminary attendance estimates through word-of-mouth.
When you decide to include photos in your cards, it is advisable to use photos that were taken after your engagement. It could be about how your life has changed, or how the both of you have walked thus far.
Using bright and outstanding colors will make your save-the-date stand out among the rest of the mail. You want to create an everlasting impression in your guests’ minds so that they will never forget to attend your special event.