Although save-the-dates are not absolutely necessary, these cards have increased in popularity with the rise of destination weddings and modern guest lists spread throughout the country. Since they are a relatively modern concept, no real rules apply – a fact which sometimes causes confusion for brides when planning their wedding stationery. I’ve sorted through the information that’s out there to bring you the real ins and outs concerning save-the-dates.
There are many types of save-the-date. Although a save-the-date is traditionally a card, it can also take the form of magnets, bookmarks, or wedding stationery. Any type of save-the-date can be a meaningful keepsake of your wedding day. They also serve the purpose of giving your guests the first indication of what your wedding will be like and what to expect at the wedding reception.
Rules & Etiquette – Again, few rules apply. The only information you must include is your names and wedding date, although I suggest including location information as well so wedding guests can begin their travel plans. Aim to send save-the-date cards soon after you secure your date and venue, or about 4-6 months prior to your wedding. Remember, everyone who receives a save-the-date also receives an invitation, so have your guest list finalized prior to sending them. You can, however, always add guests later (there is no rule that says everyone must receive a save-the-date card). Although formal replies are not required, you can get preliminary attendance estimates through word-of-mouth.
Wording Samples – The content of your save-the-dates should be short, sweet, and to the point – providing a basic who, what, where and when. There is no standard wording; they may be as formal or as whimsical as you’d like. In any case, make sure to include ”Formal invitation to follow” somewhere on the card.
Another well received way is to print a mini calendar page with a 3-hole punch so your friends can attach it to their own calendars. Of course, you would have to circle or decorate the day that belongs to you.