Although save-the-dates are not absolutely necessary, these cards have increased in popularity with the rise of destination weddings and modern guest lists spread throughout the country. Since they are a relatively modern concept, no real rules apply – a fact which sometimes causes confusion for brides when planning their wedding stationery. I’ve sorted through the information that’s out there to bring you the real ins and outs concerning save-the-dates.
Save the date cards are miniature announcements that precede actual invitations, and their main use pertains to weddings. They’re informal, concise, and pave the way for the actual invitations, much later on. Since weddings are events that require participation and attendance of the extended families on both sides, it can be quite hairy to ensure that they’re all there. In order to allay any potential problems with attendance, save the date cards are sent from 6 to 9 months in advance, but 12 months is appropriate if the wedding coincides with special holidays and/or it’s a destination wedding.
Rules & Etiquette – Again, few rules apply. The only information you must include is your names and wedding date, although I suggest including location information as well so wedding guests can begin their travel plans. Aim to send save-the-date cards soon after you secure your date and venue, or about 4-6 months prior to your wedding. Remember, everyone who receives a save-the-date also receives an invitation, so have your guest list finalized prior to sending them. You can, however, always add guests later (there is no rule that says everyone must receive a save-the-date card). Although formal replies are not required, you can get preliminary attendance estimates through word-of-mouth.
When you decide to include photos in your cards, it is advisable to use photos that were taken after your engagement. It could be about how your life has changed, or how the both of you have walked thus far.
Keep It Sweet And Simple – Today’s save the date cards can be designed from the comfort and convenience of home at the same time as the wedding invitations, graduation announcements, or other relevant correspondence. Family photographs, personalized messages, and customized color schemes can be integrated to match the color scheme and theme of the event itself. The basic message should tell guests what is happening and on which date. Some couples include a short poem,, or other expression of affection when there is enough room. They can be far less formal than the wedding invitations, so it is acceptable to be a bit more playful, lighthearted, or creative.