Who plans the rehearsal dinner? Who sends out the rehearsal dinner invitations? Historically, traditionally, and most often, the groom’s mother handles all the preparations. It gives the mother-in-law a chance to flaunt her tastes and preferences, and it gives her a big hand in the wedding that she may have been aching for all along. It’s up to you, the couple, really. Couples should make this decision with some allowance for creative control to the person they cede the preparations to.
The invitations needn’t be long or wordy. No more than 50 words are really needed for the message itself. It’s more appropriate to think of the message as a verse or short poetic stanza. Even a haiku will do. A typical invitation is composed of the following elements: the hosting party’s names (usually the parents of the groom), the bride and groom’s names, i.e., for such and such rehearsal dinner, and the day, date, time, and location. Sometimes, the message comes in an envelope, but, oftentimes, the card – colorful, illustrated, and festive – carries the message all by itself. It resembles a post card in that respect – except the message is on the side with the picture, and not on the backside. Online stores allow you to customize the card before you purchase. A simple pull-down menu will let you select the font style, font color, and background pattern or image. You can even input the text you want for each line of the message. It’s completely customizable. These are perfect if you can’t find the right card at the local bridal store, and you’re in a pinch for time.
There is something about actually choosing, addressing and mailing out your invitations that makes your wedding concrete–this is where you know you are really getting married. And this is where your guests will begin to feel what kind of day it is going to be. So, take your time and make this part of the wedding process creative, enjoyable and bonding for all.
Some people like to jazz up their invitations with themes. For example, if Italian is on the menu, then they will use an Italian-style theme. If French is up for the night, then French-style invitations are in order. This gives people an idea of what cuisine to expect, and gets them mentally prepared for the festive occasion ahead. Traditionally, rehearsal dinner invitations are a lot less cumbersome and expensive than the wedding invitations themselves, and they’re sent out a few weeks ahead of the dinner.
It’s up to you how you make your rehearsal dinner, but you must send out the rehearsal dinner invitations. Some people honestly forget unless they have something to look at to remind them of the fun night ahead. Make sure to mention the type of cuisine, alcoholic drinks served, and desserts because this lures people into the rehearsal dinner that wouldn’t otherwise come. This is a usually a time for jokes, belly laughter, and lots of storytelling. No one should miss the rehearsal dinner. Don’t let them. Send out the invitations per force.